Every time someone states that all children are gifted it equates the term gifted with special. Saying that all children are gifted actually works against the idea that all children are special. It says that there is something extra special about being gifted – more special than having strengths in other areas. Being gifted isn’t extra special. It is just different.
Let us promote the idea that it is okay for all children to be who they are. It is okay if a child is good at something or if a child struggles at something. It is okay. It is okay for a child to be who the child was born to be.
Every child is special. Every child is a unique kind of wonderful. But by saying that every child is gifted, it assumes that gifted is something better than other things. If it was really okay for every child to be their own kind of wonderful, then we wouldn’t take a child’s or parent’s disappointment at not making the gifted cutoff and state that all children are gifted.
Gifted isn’t better. It’s different – different wiring.
Gifted or not, let’s teach our children that it is okay to be their own kind of wonderful. At the same time, let’s teach them to accept that other people will have strengths that they don’t have. Let’s teach them to be okay if others do something better. Let’s teach them to be okay with themselves whether they shine at something or not.
Giftedness isn’t a wonderful prize to be attained or something better than another skill that a child might have. It is what it is. It is a strength just like any other strength. Let’s stop equating giftedness with something extra special. All kids are special. All kids have unique strengths. Let’s accept that and not put giftedness on some pedestal.