Passing the bean dip is an expression that you have undoubtedly heard if you’ve been around homeschooling awhile. For those new to the term, it actually has nothing to do with bean dip. The term is borrowed from a situation where you are sitting around a table eating and you are asked an inappropriate question. Instead of answering the question, you ask someone to pass an item to you.
Most homeschoolers encounter criticism at some point whether it is from family, neighbors, or someone at the supermarket. Passing the bean dip is a handy way to deal with a potential emotionally charged situation.
So How Do You Pass the Bean Dip?
Change the topic and don’t engage.
When you are asked an inappropriate question, simply change the topic. If that doesn’t work…
State that the topic is not up for discussion.
You are not obligated to explain things to people who criticize your lifestyle. Calmly let the person know that you are not going to discuss the issue with them. If that doesn’t work…
Snark might be the answer. Some people like to make it a practice to question your parenting or homeschooling choices. You may also need to limit contact with the offender.
I know I’ve needed to pass the bean dip many times. How have you handled the situation?